Hellinger’s Approach

Hellinger’s Approach

Alemka Dauskardt is one of the living ‘disciples’ of the non-guru philosopher, psychotherapist and poet Bert Hellinger. She worked closely with him, learned from and with him and has been working on keeping his legacy alive and developing.

When I’ve felt lost within the wider community of constellation work, it was Alemka who gave me wise direction without saying much. One poignant piece of advice she gave me years ago at an ISCA conference in Croatia was, “Silvia, you can stop working so hard”. I received it with tears of relief and gratefulness, although it took me a long while to understand the fullness of what she said. Her words have been with me since; and whenever I’ve been finding myself stressed about my career as a Family Constellations Facilitator, I knew I had to just stop and breathe. When I work hard and want to force it, the Field contracts. When I accept what is and bring my playful, creative energy into it, the Field expands. The emerging future is always just a breath away, and the Field is guiding me. All I can do is be still, be here, now, at all times and hold my intention gently with humility. The intention being, I bring the phenomenological approach according to Bert Hellinger into the world. And that I have been doing in my own, small, individual way, for the last 16+ years. I have lately been feeling much more in the flow of Life, and I find myself accepting of what is. My last workshop left me full of Love and gratefulness, with a sense of having arrived in my own unique light.

Alemka Dauskardt, Max Dauskardt, Family Constellations according to Hellinger
Alemka and Max Dauskardt, 27 Feb 2016

I think Alemka’s latest post [below] is beautifully written, although it is so very difficult to put into words what Hellinger represented, and she did it – again – so eloquently.

I am grateful for her clear guidance. I do want to mention her husband Max as well, as I hold him equally dear in my heart. They’re an amazing team in their mission and a lovely couple.

Please read the following article if you would like to understand which journey I’ve been [and keep being] on: The beautiful ‘Family Constellations according to Hellinger’ journey. Hellinger touched my Soul and still does so, whenever I take time to read his texts. What an inspiration, a true healer he was and still is; a Living Legend.

Read Alemka’s Article here

My next physical meeting with Family Systems Constellations is:

Saturday 6 November, 10am – 10:30pm, Headington, Oxford, UK

My booking page is this: https://OxISC.eventbrite.co.uk

Find Love Within

Find Love Within

The title for my upcoming workshop in Abingdon-on-Thames (UK) at Soul Shine Wellbeing Space on 11th September 2021 is “Find Love Within“. It came to me in meditation, and at the time I imagined it to be a brilliant headline that would draw people in. To me it was clear that the lack of Love is what divides us, keeps us distant and lonely, or segregated. I’ve got one person signed up at this point, which means people are not quite understanding what this is about. Therefore I thought I’d write a little about what to expect from the day.

The questions we will explore are as follows:

  • How do we recognise Love?
  • What lies in the way of our path to Love?
  • Are we happy to give?
  • When do we lose ourselves in Love?
  • Are we allowed to claim Love?
  • Can we expect Love?

With regard to Love we’re always at the beginning, and we never know everything.

Silvia Siret

The day will be structured in this way:

  • 09:45 – 10:00 – Meet and greet with a cuppa and a biscuit
  • 10:00 – 10:30 – Sit in circle, introductions, sharing
  • 10:30 – 11:30 – Dialogue about above questions
  • 11:30 – 13:00 – We’ll look into a participant’s love issue
  • 13:00 – 14:00 – Lunch Break
  • 14:00 – 17:00 – More sharing, dialogue, and we’ll look into other participants’ love issues

The tools I’m using are

  • Guided meditation / mindfulness exercises
  • Dialogue according to Bohm
  • Systemic Constellation Work (Family Constellations)
  • Coaching

I’ve been facilitating group workshops since 2006 and am known to hold safe spaces.

These kinds of group experiences always create a sense of awe, bonding, support and hope, as well as the understanding that we all have things in common. Whenever we explore into someone’s issue together, it feels like a huge gift to the rest of us, as we learn so much from each other.

Please, do put your questions into the comments below; others might be interested, too. Alternatively, contact me via my contact tab (see menu).

More info and booking, click here: Eventbrite

My first Vlog – “Constellations”

My brief explanation of the word “Constellations” and how it works

There will be more … I will explain in more detail how it works and how it can help. So, watch this space.

Namaste.